Exactly one year ago on this day, March 31st, I decided to quit my well-paying corporate job at a large IT research & advisory firm. I remember it vividly because I felt like shit — stuck in a life that I never wanted.
Having a job is like having a relationship. There are two camps of people.
- People who say that Mr. Right doesn’t exist — there’s only Mr. Right Now.
- And then there are the romantics who believe in true and unconditional love. Love where there is no hate involved— ever.
I’m number 2. I wasn’t really in love with my job. It was okay — she had good looks, took care of me, and made sure I wasn’t alone. So I said: Let’s give it a try.
- “I’ll just have one candy bar.”
- “I’m going out just this once.”
- “I’m going to skip the gym just today.”
- “I’m going to watch only one House of Cards episode.”
- “I’m going to play 20 minutes of Call of Duty.”
- “I’m going to read that book another time.”
- “I’m going to relax just for one day.”
- “I’m going to have just one more drink.”
- “I’m going to sleep in today.”
We often think that it doesn’t hurt to skip the little things in life. We know that it’s better to exercise, read, or work on our skills every day.
We also know that it’s better to eat healthy, don’t drink a lot of alcohol, and don’t waste our time complaining of feeling hurt. But all of that stuff is boring. And it doesn’t hurt to skip the little and boring stuff, right?
Well, little things add up to big things. Positive and negative. Skip enough little things and you will never see results. But when you keep doing the little things—it will pay off.
People love to give and receive advice. We do it all the time. And it’s a good thing — no one in this world has all the answers to everything.
Most people mean well, but sometimes, the advice works counterproductive. Especially when you ask advice from various people and everyone tells you something different.
Result? Confusion — which is never helpful.
Take college. One person says it’s useless; the other says it’s necessary. If you’re currently deciding whether to go to college or not, other people’s advice will probably not help you.
And this is true for most things in life. That’s why there are a few things to keep in mind when you’re asking people for advice.
We all make harmless excuses to get out of things we’re not in the mood for.
We say things like: “Honey, I’m too tired.” “I have a doctor’s appointment.” “I have a spinning class.”
Those things are excuses for: You’re not in the mood, you’re perfectly healthy and want to get out of something, and by ‘spinning class’, you mean watching an episode of House of Cards.
Not a big deal. Those excuses are not bad, but we also make other excuses, that mess up our life.
We say things like: “I would start a business, but I can’t get $100K of starting capital.”
For years, I’ve made up all kinds of excuses for the things that I wanted to do. The truth is that I was just scared. And because of that, you never start.
But it’s also an easy way to fool yourself that you are not the problem, it’s something or someone else. We do anything to say: “I’m not the problem.”