Mental Models and Making Decisions You Don’t Regret

decision making process

What makes a good decision? When I ask people that question, I often get answers like:

“When the outcome is successful.”

Why is it that we, as a society, romanticize outcomes? Only things and people that succeed are celebrated. Just look at all the articles and books that idolize successful people. And to a degree, that’s obvious.

But it’s also misleading. We tend to overlook cases that did not come with a successful outcome. And when we do look at failure, we are often quick to explain why things failed.

In hindsight, we can all look at mistakes and say that it was imminent. But if preventing mistakes is that easy, why are we still make decisions that we regret?

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How To Get Rid Of The Thoughts That Are Clogging Your Brain

overthinking

I want to ask you a question. How many hours per day do you think?

“I never thought about that.” So let me get this straight. You’re thinking all the time, and yet, you never think about how much time you spend thinking.

That sounds like an addiction to me. I know, because I’m addicted to thinking too.

  • When I eat too much, I can say “I’m overeating. I need to eat less.”
  • When I work too much, I can say “I’m getting burned out. I need to stop working.”
  • When I drink too much, I can say “I need to stop. I need a bottle of water.”

But when I think too much, I can’t just say “I’m overthinking.” I need a different approach to unclog my brain.

But the problem is that we don’t consider overthinking as a problem.

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10 Small Habits That Have A Huge Return On Life

positive habits

Over the years, I’ve adopted many different “positive” habits. To me, a habit is positive when it improves the quality of my life. A lot has been written about forming habits.

How hard is? How long does it take? What’s the best way to break habits? How do we adopt new habits?

My experience is that everyone can adopt any habit they want. There’s only one condition though: You need a good reason to make a change.

And in 99% of cases, the reason to change comes from personal suffering, sadness, and hurt. At some point, you can’t stand your current behavior anymore.

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If You Are Reading This, You Are Already Ahead

dont get ahead of yourself

I recently spoke with one of my students about her challenge to find a new job. She’s trying to get ahead.

And she invests a lot of time in her own education. After speaking to her, I was convinced she would be an asset to any company that hired her.

However, she didn’t feel the same certainty as I did.

“But what if everybody else is trying the same strategies to get a job?”

Like many people who invest a lot in their education, she assumed that literally every single other person on planet earth is doing the same. And that her chances to land a great job diminished because of that. 

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