Have you ever turned down a project, job offer, or client just because you didn’t like them? If you haven’t, you’re not the only one.
It takes a lot of guts to turn down money. I remember one time at our family business; my dad refused to sell to a prospect. The team and I didn’t understand it. We thought: “They want to pay good money. Why not accept it?”
“Because they are assholes,” my dad said.
Fair play, I thought. The truth is that it was way more complicated than that. My dad had worked with that company before in the past. And he also knew others who worked with them. Apparently, they were a “supplier hopper.”
Sometimes you sit down somewhere — maybe in a coffee shop, at the office, or in front of your TV — and out of nowhere, a thought pops up in your mind:
“Why am I not farther in life than now?”
Maybe you thought you’d have kids by now. A business that would make a lot of money. Or that you were a well-respected person that makes a difference in the world. Maybe you thought you’d own a house by now. And that you had everything figured out.
But none of that shit has happened.
Do you know that feeling of waking up tired? Or coming home from a day’s work completely paralyzed by fatigue? Sometimes you just feel like doing nothing, right?
- “I don’t feel like working.”
- “I don’t feel like doing groceries.”
- “I don’t feel like going to the gym.”
- “I don’t feel like taking public transportation.”
I feel you. I’ve been there. And now and then, I’m still there. But what if I told you that you’re wasting your life with that attitude?
Last week I turned 30. Unlike most people, I do like getting older. 10 years ago, I was a complete idiot.
Now, a decade later, I still know nothing, but I do feel more in control of my life. I thank that personal growth to an idea I stole from Socrates, the person who was once named the wisest man on earth by the Oracle of Delphi.
When Socrates heard that the oracle had made such a comment, he believed that the statement was wrong. Socrates said:
“I know one thing: that I know nothing.”
How can the smartest man on earth know nothing? I heard this paradoxical wisdom for the first time from my school teacher when I was 14 or 15. That humility made such an impact on me that I used Socrates’s quote as my learning strategy.
Have you ever been let down by a colleague who you thought was a friend? Or how about getting drunk at the office party? If so, you’re not alone.
But here’s the thing: You can’t mix your professional and personal life. And that’s not a great thing to hear, right? We all desperately want to have a great time at work. And I get it.
You spend more time at work than any other place in your life, so it’s important to enjoy what you do. But doing what you love and workplace rules are two different things.
That took me a long time to understand. Granted, I’m a stubborn idiot who has to learn things the hard way. But one thing I’ve learned about the workplace is this: Things are not what they seem.
I’m the last person to say that life is easy. I don’t think that’s the case at all. But there’s one thing I’ve learned in recent years that changed everything.
They way you THINK determines the outcome of your life. But thinking is hard. That’s why we don’t do it often enough. Helen Keller said it best:
“People don’t like to think, if one thinks, one must reach conclusions. Conclusions are not always pleasant.”
I’ll show you 15 thoughts about life that will forever transform the way you live. Ready? Let’s go.
I’m completely new to this whole podcasting. I’m a podcast virgin.
And in the first episode, I talk too fast, say weird stuff, and ramble for way too long. I also recorded it, edited it, and even made the music for it with Garageband. It’s safe to say my podcast is not perfect.
Will it improve? Probably. But we have to see how it goes. Do I enjoy it? Do people enjoy it? Should I pivot? Or maybe even quit? Questions I always ask when I do something. And I encourage you to do the same for everything you do.
Anyway, if you’re curious to hear my podcast, in the first episode I answer these questions:
- “How do you rationalize (or not) doing something that others are already very good at? In my case, starting a small business.”
- “What did you learn from Seneca’s Letters From A Stoic?”
- “How do you deal with the emotional roller coaster of life?”
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