I’m not a cheesy person nor am I overly optimistic. I also don’t believe in unicorns. I’m actually pretty Stoic.
For example I don’t believe you can be anything you want as long as you try really hard. I also believe that nothing good in life comes easy.
And that bad shit happens in life. Not everyone is going to treat you like royalty — you just have to deal with it (thick skin).
But I do have this one optimistic idea.
Do you have friends who always stay the same? And do you also have friends who always grow and develop themselves? Both can be good friends, but the former will seem like a stranger to you one day.
Friendship is a tough nut to crack. It’s too emotional. Especially when it comes to long-lasting friendships.
For me, there are two main challenges:
- What’s a real friend?
- Is it okay to outgrow friends?
The first one, I’ve learned, is straightforward: A real friend is someone who cares about you. That’s all.
One of my favorite things in the world is talking. I’ve always been like that.
I remember one time when I was 14, I and a friend watched Fight Club twice in a row because our minds were blown away. We talked about that movie for hours. We started somewhere in the evening and didn’t finish until 5 AM.
It was awesome. And I’ve had many other all-night-long talks with friends, girlfriends, family, about almost everything (except for the news, politics, and religion—those subjects I always avoid)
Talking really stimulates my mind. And the deep conversation is like sex for the brain.
But here’s the thing: Too much talking is a bad habit for two reasons.
Self-awareness is currently one of the sexiest words in entrepreneurship, happiness, productivity, or anything that has to do with personal growth.
Almost every entrepreneur or thought leader says that self-awareness is one of the keys to personal success. While that may be true — it’s by no means a new concept.
Greek philosopher Aristotle, who lived between 384–322 BC, once said:
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
We get it, self-awareness (or knowing yourself) is important. But I’ve learned that it’s also one of the most difficult things that you can master in life.