“Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.”
Viktor E. Frankl
When I had a job I didn’t like I was bored all the time. The only thing I did was getting ready for work, resting from a long workday, looking forward to the weekend and dreading Monday. My whole life revolved around a job I didn’t like. So what do you do when you get bored? Like most people, I did everything to avoid boredom.
I watched almost every single good TV show and movie that came out. I talked about those endlessly with people. I even spent hours on IMDB and Wikipedia to read about the actors. It’s all useless information!
In ancient times, the rules of nature were easy. If you didn’t compete for food, shelter or women, you would die. We still compete for those things, but the competition actually makes us weaker.
When we compete, two negative things can happen.
- We start imitating the competition
- We focus too much on our competitor, instead of our business
In our personal lives, we often imitate our competitors. We all compete on some level with colleagues, friends, and family. This will make you lose your identity and dignity. True power comes from within. Don’t compete with others. You don’t have to have a better car.
We believe that we always have to say yes to opportunities. We fear that saying no leads us to miss out on money, fun, and other experiences. But by always saying yes, we don’t value our time.
Blindly we say yes to everything that comes our way. We often don’t look at saying “no” as a skill. If we are at work and our manager asks you to hand in a report before the end of the day, we say, “sure thing.” It interrupts our work, and we often have to push other things aside.
There was never any fear for me, no fear of failure. If I miss a shot, so what?
– Michael Jordan