A few days ago, I became a dad.
It’s a great feeling. What made everything more special is that 50 days ago, I decided to write a daily letter to my unborn son.
I just wanted to write about how his mom’s and my lives looked like leading up to his birth.
And most importantly, I wanted to share important life lessons that I’ve learned from others with him. In a fun way.
Because I don’t know when he will read the letters. I wrote it so he could benefit from it, whether he reads it at 10, 20, or 30, or at any age.
As I was writing every day, I felt like it was the purest and most honest writing I had ever done.
After all, it was for my son. And I only want the best for him.
I didn’t use AI once. I didn’t try to impress or act a certain way. Nothing to sell. No one to convince.
Just sharing everything straight from the heart.
A few early observations on fatherhood
Birth rates are down in the developed world. I understand. Mainstream culture is not about family life.
It’s about “living life to the fullest” and pleasure seeking.
I’ve never been with that. I’ve always been close to my parents and brother. And later, my wife.
Now, we have a new member of our family.
I love our baby. He’s so cool and relaxed.
But what I’m most excited about is when he becomes a bit older and becomes his own person.
The idea that there’s a small human who’s relying on me for a lot of things feels good. It gives you meaning and purpose.
Not that you must have kids to have purpose. I also had purpose before.
Parenthood is a different type of meaning. It’s dynamic and will change over time.
For anyone thinking about having kids, it’s worth it.
Create something honest. Something sincere.
Writing these letters to my son for almost two months taught me a few things:
- It’s worth spending your time on something deeply personal. When I started writing the letters, I didn’t think I would ever turn them into a book. It just felt good. The thought of publishing didn’t even come up. But as I was writing, I just thought, why not publish this? Even if no one reads it, my son can always order a copy on Amazon if I make it publicly available.
- You will remember everything much better. This is especially if you’re going through an important phase of your life. If you also take time to reflect, write, or create, you just process everything differently. Later, you remember a lot about that period.
- We need more honesty in our lives.
You know, a lot of my letters in the book are about becoming an independent thinker and person. Someone who can see through all the BS of life.
There are just a lot of fake and useless things in our world.
The antidote is honesty. Not only to others, but also to ourselves.
That honestly will reflect in our actions and work. That’s something that I believe will pay off.
If I think about my writing career, I’ve always stayed honest. I never wrote a thing I didn’t mean, or that I wasn’t sure was beneficial to my reader.
As a result, my readers have supported me, helping me build a career.
And most importantly, the support of others has helped me to pay it forward.
So, thanks for reading!
I’m going sign off. My son is sleeping between my wife and me in our bed. It’s really cool.
More to come!
Thanks for reading.
