I’m not a cheesy person nor am I overly optimistic. I also don’t believe in unicorns. I’m actually pretty Stoic.
For example: I don’t believe you can be anything you want as long as you try really hard. I also believe that nothing good in life comes easy.
And that bad shit happens in life. Not everyone is going to treat you like royalty — you just have to deal with it (thick skin).
But I do have this one optimistic idea.
Do you have friends who always stay the same? And do you also have friends who always grow and develop themselves? Both can be good friends, but the former will seem like a stranger to you one day.
Friendship is a tough nut to crack. It’s too emotional. Especially when it comes to long lasting friendships.
For me, there are two main challenges:
- What’s a real friend?
- Is it okay to outgrow friends?
The first one, I’ve learned, is straightforward: A real friend is someone who cares about you. That’s all.
One of my favorite things in the world is talking. I’ve always been like that.
I remember one time, when I was 14, me and a friend watched Fight Club twice in a row because our minds were blown away. We talked about that movie for hours. We started somewhere in the evening and didn’t finish until 5AM.
It was awesome. And I’ve had many other all-night long talks with friends, girlfriends, family, about almost everything (except for the news, politics, and religion—those subjects I always avoid)
Talking really stimulates my mind. And deep conversation is like sex for the brain.
But here’s thing: Too much talking is bad habit for two reasons.
Self-awareness is currently one of the sexiest words in entrepreneurship, happiness, productivity, or anything that has to do with personal growth.
Almost every entrepreneur or thought leader says that self-awareness is one of the keys to personal success. While that may be true — it’s by no means a new concept.
Greek philosopher Aristotle, who lived between 384–322 BC, once said:
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
We get it, self-awareness (or knowing yourself) is important. But I’ve learned that it’s also one of the most difficult things that you can master in life.
One of my first jobs was as a telemarketer for a telecom provider. It was basically cold-calling people all day, trying to sell them mobile contracts
I picked things up quickly and became the top performing salesperson on the floor. In my first month, I made at least five sales a day, which was more than double of what others sold.
People praised me big time. It also got to my head big time. By my fourth month, I got into a big slump. During one stretch, I didn’t sell anything for almost two weeks.
Have you ever experienced a setback that seemed to suck the life out of you? Bad things happen to us.
And it’s not a question of if something bad will happen, but when. So you better have a strategy to deal with setbacks.
We all have to deal with hurt, sadness, and loss in our lives. That’s a given. So it is not important to ask yourself why bad things happen.
As Epictetus said about 2000 years ago:
“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”
We collectively believe in a lot of myths. One of them is that your life only makes sense if you do what you love. That might be true, but the pursuit of your passion can be equally satisfying, which is something we often overlook.
Casey Neistat is an awesome YouTuber and entrepreneur. In his vlogs, he often talks about how much he loves his work (most recently here). And he advocates the belief of “find a job that you love and you don’t have to work for a day in your life.”
He’s not the only one who believes that. Many artists, athletes, entrepreneurs believe the same.