I started my first website and blog in 2011 when I started my first business.
At the time, blogging was already very popular for businesses. In fact, some “experts” said that blogging was dead.
That’s so funny to me. People make these outrages claims all the time.
When I started my personal blog in 2015, it was exactly the same.
“Blogging is dead! Social media and video is where you need to be!”
Really? My social media activity is close to 0. And yet, my articles reach close to 250K people a month.
My whole strategy is blogging. Nothing more. Nothing less.
In the midst of challenging times, we often think we’re going through the worst time ever.
And when we’re in the middle of adversity, we think it never ends. That’s why we always say things like, “my life is over!”
No, you’re not dramatic. It’s just one of our thinking errors. It’s difficult for us to judge a crisis while we’re in it.
In hindsight, it’s much easier. We can look back and think, “I survived that. I will survive other difficult things in the future.”
But when we face illness, financial problems, or adversity in our relationships, we’re quick to think it’s THE END. And once we get stuck in a negative thinking pattern, we lose motivation.
Have you seen those articles with headlines that promise the impossible?
- “1000X your personal growth!”
- “Change your life in 10 seconds!”
- “Learn EVERYTHING in 1 hour!”
You and I both know that these types of claims are BS—it’s nothing more than cheap clickbait. But why are we still baited by these headlines?
We’re optimists! And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Look, we all know that there’s no such thing as 1,000% growth in a short period of time. We also know that we can’t finish a 300-page book in 30 minutes. Mastery doesn’t work that way. There are no shortcuts.
However, getting good at something is also not totally unattainable. Because like these above extreme claims, there is a counterculture that says it takes 10,000 hours (or more) to master a skill. As you might expect, I’m more on the side of that it takes longer to get good at something.
I’m not hungry for money. Compared to several years ago, when I had less money, I still have the same life.
I wake up, drink my freshly brewed coffee, read a good book, and then start working until about 3 or 4 in the afternoon. Then, I put on my shorts and t-shirt and start working out.
Sometimes I listen to music during my workouts, and sometimes I don’t. After working out, I have dinner with my family. We watch a TV show or movie after we eat. And then, I get back to working or reading.
You see, it doesn’t take much money to live a good life. Benjamin Graham, one of the most respected investors of all time, once told his apprentice:
“Money isn’t making that much difference in how you and I live. We’re both going down to the cafeteria for lunch and working every day and having a good time. So don’t worry about money, because it won’t make much difference in how you live.”
“I’m bored.” When’s the last time you said that? I bet not too long ago.
If you give me 4 minutes, I’ll tell you why that’s a bad sign.
In the past, I always looked at other people for answers. When you’re little, your school teachers tell you what to do every day. That’s the system at primary school, high school, college, and university.
It’s always one person who tells a group what to do. What does that do to people?
School systems train us to be passive. And after we get out of school, nothing really changes. When I had my first job, I listened to my boss about what to do.
And when I started my first business with my dad, I looked at him for answers.
People who claim that setting goals are a bad thing are out of their minds. They probably set some goals in the past, failed, and never set a goal again.
I know there’s a lot of confusion about goals and systems these days. I’ve contributed to the confusion as well.
A lot of us share the idea that you either have a system or set goals.
But thinking “this or that” is not helpful because it limits our beliefs. I know this because I used to think that way too. But then, I learned that many things in life could be this and that.
So in this article, I’ll explain why goals and systems complement each other, and why I have both.
Are you currently in a good mood or a bad mood?
Now, let me ask you another question: How is your day? I bet that you’re having a bad day if you’re in a bad mood, and a good day if you’re in a good mood.
That’s obvious, right? But here’s the thing; since it has such a big impact on the quality of our lives, why aren’t we managing our mood better? Because let’s face it, we shouldn’t let a bad mood ruin our day.
And yet, I never hear people about managing their mood. We all assume that our mood is influenced by outside factors. Things that we do not control.