“Have a little patience.” That’s something many people have told me very often in the past. And it’s true, used to be very impatient.
Too often, we don’t realize how bad impatience is. I was recently rereading some parts of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers, my favorite book on conquering fear. And this sentence grabbed my attention:
“The biggest pitfall as you make your way through life is impatience.”
I’ve struggled with patience for most of my life. I always want things to happen now. There are many examples of that.
Just admit it, you’ve thought about it before. Social media is great and all. But you and I both know that it also sucks.
Does this scenario sound familiar?
- It’s late at night, you’re in bed, you dread waking up early tomorrow because you have to go to work, so you grab your smartphone, you open up Instagram (or whatever app you’re addicted to).
- And you start browsing, you go from one picture to the next, you watch some videos, you start feeling bad about your life, because all the other people have fun, and you have to go to work in the morning.
Do you believe that more opportunities equal more chances of success? I sure did.
And since we all want to feel important in this world, we think that the way to achieve that is to chase every single opportunity out there.
I hear it often: “This is a big opportunity for me.”
But that idea is broken. Chasing opportunities is a bad strategy. It’s more practical to chase skills, and PREPARE for opportunities.
Note: I recently shared this only with the readers of my newsletter. I thought I’d post it here too.
Have you heard of the of the reciprocity principle in social psychology?
It’s a social rule that says people give back what they receive, it was popularized by Robert Cialdini in his book Influence. Everyone has been in that type of situation.
When you feel obligated to invite that annoying colleague for your birthday, it’s because he/she invited you as well. And you feel like you have to return the favor, right?
Reciprocity is a common technique used by marketers. It’s about giving with the expectation that you get something back.
Altruism is different. Which is basically giving for the sake of giving. You don’t expect anything in return.
And then there’s reciprocal altruism (originally a term from evolutionary biology), which is what most thought leaders use. People have different terms for it.
I’m completely new to this whole podcasting. I’m a podcast virgin.
And in the first episode, I talk too fast, say weird stuff, and ramble for way too long. I also recorded it, edited it, and even made the music for it with Garageband. It’s safe to say my podcast is not perfect.
Will it improve? Probably. But we have to see how it goes. Do I enjoy it? Do people enjoy it? Should I pivot? Or maybe even quit? Questions I always ask when I do something. And I encourage you to do the same for everything you do.
Anyway, if you’re curious to hear my podcast, in the first episode I answer these questions:
- “How do you rationalize (or not) doing something that others are already very good at? In my case, starting a small business.”
- “What did you learn from Seneca’s Letters From A Stoic?”
- “How do you deal with the emotional roller coaster of life?”
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Don’t you think life is weird sometimes? Take quitting.
Most of us believe that it’s wrong to quit. That it’s for losers. And that quitting equals failure.
The ‘never quit’ attitude is a good thing. Especially when we pursue hard things. I don’t think you should ever quit just because you can’t handle something.
However, quitting is also a smart strategy. Sometimes quitting is even the better option.