Do you have a long list of goals, desires, and wants for your life? Do you want to learn more? Earn more? Improve your skills? Get the most out of your relationships? Live better?
All those things are good. Life is about moving forward and making consistent progress.
However, there’s one important thing about all this working, hustling, striving, and achieving more: You can’t do everything at the same time.
Believe me, that thing you’re using to read this article is not your friend.
And even if you’re reading this on your laptop of PC, there’s one thing I want to ask you: How important is your device to you?
I was shocked when I read a weird statistic a while back. An experiment, which was conducted by the universities of Würzburg and Nottingham Trent, revealed that 37.4% of the participants rated their phone as more or equally important in relation to their close friends.
Seriously, what’s wrong with people? 29.4 per cent of those weirdoes even said their smartphone was equally important, or more important, to them than their parents.
Socrates, considered as one of the founders of Western philosophy, was once named the wisest man on earth by the Oracle of Delphi. When Socrates heard that the oracle had made such a comment, he believed that the statement was wrong.
Socrates said: “ I know one thing: that I know nothing.”
You might be a wise person, but still, you know nothing. You can learn from everything and everyone. Over the years, I’ve been blessed to have great mentors, teachers, family, friends, that taught me about life.
We might learn things quickly, but we often forget things at the same rate — and sometimes we need to remind ourselves of the things we’ve learned.
Here are 25 of those reminders that others taught me. Illustrated by Maren Katelaan.
Over the past three years, I’ve moved house close to a dozen times. Most people experience moving house as a stressful event. Initially, I was no different. But I’ve learned to love it for one reason: It forced me to think about my possessions.
Too much stuff makes moving and living complex. And I like the opposite.
When I moved to London from The Netherlands in 2014, it was the first time I took the time to get rid of almost everything I owned.
Episode 15 of The Darius Foroux show features an audio version of my article about career mistakes. Believe me, I’ve made a lot of unnecessary mistakes. Unnecessary because these are mistakes I could have easily avoided if I learned more from other people’s mistakes. Enjoy!
And in case you’d like to read along, I’ve posted the full article below.
Do you ever think, “who cares about anything that I have to say?”
Every time you have a similar thought like that, you’re developing imposter syndrome. There are many ways imposter syndrome expresses itself in your mind:
- “If I fail this, I will lose everything.”
- “What if people call me out?”
“I feel like a fake. I’m not the right person to talk about this.”
After these type of thoughts, we often try to downplay the effects:
- “It’s not a big deal.”
- “No one cares anyway.”
- “It’s a matter of luck, anyway.”
Those secondary thoughts are just a defense mechanism. We try to convince ourselves that our work isn’t important and that no one cares. We experience imposter syndrome when we have to lead people, share our ideas, give advice, etc.