- “It can’t be done.”
- “What? Do you want to build an airplane? You’re crazy.”
- “You’ll never make it.”
- “Everyone fails and so will you.”
- “1,000 songs in your pocket? You must be kidding, right?”
- “An electrical car with a range of 300 miles? What’s next? A time machine?”
- “You want to be an artist? It’s safer to get a job.”
- “Why would you travel the world?”
What does it take when everyone tells you that you’re wrong? Delusion. At least, a little of it.
Exactly one year ago on this day, March 31st, I decided to quit my well-paying job at a large IT research & advisory firm. I remember it vividly because I felt like shit — stuck in a life that I never wanted.
Having a job is like having a relationship. There are two camps of people.
- People who say that Mr. Right doesn’t exist — there’s only Mr. Right Now.
- And then there are the romantics who believe in true and unconditional love. Love where there is no hate involved— ever.
I’m number 2. I wasn’t really in love with my job. It was okay — she had good looks, took care of me, and made sure I wasn’t alone. So I said: Let’s give it a try.
We all make harmless excuses to get out of things we’re not in the mood for.
We say things like: “Honey, I’m too tired.” “I have a doctor’s appointment.” “I have a spinning class.”
Those things are excuses for: You’re not in the mood, you’re perfectly healthy and want to get out of something, and by ‘spinning class’, you mean watching an episode of House of Cards.
Not a big deal. Those excuses are not bad, but we also make other excuses, that mess up our life.
We say things like: “I would start a business, but I can’t get $100K of starting capital.”
For years, I’ve made up all kinds of excuses for the things that I wanted to do. The truth is that I was just scared. And because of that, you never start.
But it’s also an easy way to fool yourself that you are not the problem, it’s something or someone else. We do anything to say: “I’m not the problem.”