How often do you talk about your own failure? If you’re like me, not often. I think it’s a universal thing that we often try to cover up our failures.
It’s not cool to say that you’ve failed. We prefer to talk about success. That’s also true for most books, articles, talks, etc.
Yup, everything is always great. Except, it isn’t always great.
But what’s wrong with failing? And what is failure? It’s so subjective. I think we’re often too quick to judge ourselves.
In the moment, failure is this ugly thing that you want to go away quickly. When I look back at my own failures it’s the same. There are things like failed jobs, business ventures, relationships, etc.
Do you have a long list of goals that you want to achieve? No matter how small or large your goals are; some of us never even start.
The main reason is because we know that the first step is the hardest. How do you even set that first step? How do you go from zero to one?
- From zero revenue to earning your first dollar.
- From zero followers to one follower.
- From unemployed to getting á job.
- From zero users to one user.
In the beginning, it’s not about finding your dream job, becoming a multi-millionaire, having 1M followers.
No, it’s about taking that first step. Your first pleasant job. Your first reader. Your first user. Your first sale.
Here are 7 steps that help bring you from zero to one.
A little while back I shared my system for reading over 100 books a year in this post.
It was awesome to see how many people took it on as a challenge. Because to me, books are the #1 way to absorb knowledge.
Think about it. A person often shares years of research & experience in one book. And the best thing is that you can buy books for little money. You can even get your hands on them for free by borrowing them. Or you can go to your library.
The point is: Reading gives you knowledge. And knowledge gives you a better life.
Here’s an infographic with my system for reading 100 books a year. Enjoy!
Do you remember the first time you did something new and exciting? It was a big thing, right? But you also got used to it, right?
We get used to almost everything in life. That’s a good thing, but it can also be bad at the same time.
One of the strengths of humans is that we get used to almost everything. That ability helped us to survive and evolve.
The first time I got on an airplane, I was 16 and thought it was the coolest thing in the world. Now, I just see it as a way of transport, nothing else. Flying didn’t change. It’s still an amazing thing, like Louis C.K. says:
“Everybody on every plane should just constantly be going: “Oh my God! Wow!” You’re flying! You’re sitting in a chair, in the sky!”
I’m not a cheesy person nor am I overly optimistic. I also don’t believe in unicorns. I’m actually pretty Stoic.
For example: I don’t believe you can be anything you want as long as you try really hard. I also believe that nothing good in life comes easy.
And that bad shit happens in life. Not everyone is going to treat you like royalty — you just have to deal with it (thick skin).
But I do have this one optimistic idea.
Do you have friends who always stay the same? And do you also have friends who always grow and develop themselves? Both can be good friends, but the former will seem like a stranger to you one day.
Friendship is a tough nut to crack. It’s too emotional. Especially when it comes to long lasting friendships.
For me, there are two main challenges:
- What’s a real friend?
- Is it okay to outgrow friends?
The first one, I’ve learned, is straightforward: A real friend is someone who cares about you. That’s all.
One of my favorite things in the world is talking. I’ve always been like that.
I remember one time, when I was 14, me and a friend watched Fight Club twice in a row because our minds were blown away. We talked about that movie for hours. We started somewhere in the evening and didn’t finish until 5AM.
It was awesome. And I’ve had many other all-night long talks with friends, girlfriends, family, about almost everything (except for the news, politics, and religion—those subjects I always avoid)
Talking really stimulates my mind. And deep conversation is like sex for the brain.
But here’s thing: Too much talking is bad habit for two reasons.